Make Me Up Mia: A Lifestyle & Beauty Blog: Stress Less.

Friday, October 3, 2014

Stress Less.



Stress. We all deal with it. Whether it's big or small, it's real. It's a problem. 

Over the last year, basically since Christian's accident, I've been extra stressed and felt like I didn't know how to deal with it anymore. I developed horrible acne in my chin/jawline area that no matter what I did, it wouldn't go away. Over the last few months, I started experiencing anxiety for the first time in my life. I knew that all of this was a result of stress and that I needed to make some changes if I wanted things to be different. 

First, I sought help with my acne. What I already knew was confirmed, hormones and stress were exactly what was causing it. I'm now on a few natural supplements that should help me out.

Next, I identified and made a list of exactly what was causing me stress and what I needed to do to change it.

Then I made a list of things that make me happy and/or relaxed. Things that I've either not been doing enough of, or need to focus on more. Here is what that list looks like-


-LifeGroup with my girls
-Bible study & attending church
-Spending Sunday to actually relax, at least a little
-Sipping coffee & watching an old favorite movie
-Baking on weekends
-Patio dining & more dates with my love
-Working out
-Blogging, when I feel inspired

I vowed to really focus on these things, for me and for my health. Not to sound selfish, but we don't have kids yet and this is really our time to do things for us. One day that will change, but this is where we're at right now.

So what does this look like for me? What has changed or is changing in my life?

Blogging less. I love blogging, but sometimes it's just too overwhelming when you work full time. I know we can all relate to this. I decided to cut back to twice a week, sometimes 3. Guess what, I finally feel like I found my balance! It freed up so much time and I feel like I've fallen in love with blogging again. After I made the change, I came across this article. I thought it was interesting.

Less phone time. I can't tell you how many times recently I wanted to throw my phone out the window in a fit of rage. Sometimes, you need to just disconnect from the world. Try it, gosh it feels good.

Letting things go. I used to feel like everything had to be done right away. I've truly let stuff go, around the house especially, and it feels amazing. Of course I still clean my house, but I'm not obsessing over it. I get little things done in the mornings before work, which means actual free time on the weekend.

Saying no. This can be hard, a tricky one. You never want to hurt someones feelings but sometimes you just need to say no. Example: A wedding or baby shower of a friend, you should probably go, it means a lot to that person. A party during the week that you'd love to attend but you'd have to rework your schedule or will cause you some extra stress, you should probably say no. Nothing wrong with that, honestly they should understand.

Spend more time with people I love. Extra quality time with Dustin, my besties and my family. The people in my life that truly make me happy. 

Now, I know that this may seem silly to some, but I can't tell you how much happier, relaxed and balanced I've felt these last few weeks. I'm sharing this with you all because I know I'm not alone. I know we are all busy & stressed over the typical things life throws at you. Let some of it go. Make a few changes for YOU if you need to. I promise you, you'll be a happier person. 




What is something you could change/cut back to de-stress your life a little?

49 comments:

  1. I'm so happy that you've found your balance - I think you're so right! We all get overwhelmed and my way of dealing with it is getting a workout in...it really de-stresses me and when that doesn't work, wine!! I feel like my phone runs my life sometimes...but I am trying to get better at leaving it at home when we go to dinner!

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  2. Love this! Great quotes and great ways to destress! Happy Friday pretty lady!

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  3. I'm glad for your sake that you found a good balance with everything. Life can be overwhelming sometimes, and I think it's great that you took a step back and made a list of what you weren't getting enough of in your life. I probably should sit down and do the same! Even though selfishly I miss you daily ( :) ), I'm happy to know that YOU are happier and more content with everything.

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  4. I'm totally with you on the need for balance. It's amazing how stress can build up and then infiltrate all areas of life - glad you're finding some helpful strategies for dealing with it!

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  5. Loved that article! I've had to step away from blogging a bit, too recently with everything that is going on from moving, etc... more in the fact that I'm terrible about responding to emails or visiting other blogs! It used to make me feel *really* guilty but I've been learning to let some of that go. After all, real life always comes first! Glad you've made some changes that are making you feel better... life is TOO short to be stressed!

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  6. Oh friend I love this so much! I used to be GLUED to my phone--but now a couple nights a week I turn all devices OFF. So good for the soul!

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  7. These quotes make me so happy! Thanks for the inspiration, friend!

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  8. I love what Craig says - say no to good things and yes to better things! It helps me - I too have been overwhelmed recently with something every weekend until the rest of the year and stuff jam packed during the week!! I have to remind myself to calm down :) I agree - blogging 2-3 times a week is perfect, even that can seem hard to find time to do with a full time job and activities after work every night!!!! xoxo

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  9. Gotta do what makes you happy girl. :) I'm glad you're finding your balance. We all need it!

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  10. I'm glad that you have found your balance and that you are taking the time to do what makes you happy. You deserve it! I seriously never like to go out during the week unless its for a family member or my bestie. I don't drink during the week (or much at all anymore) so that is my #1 reason, not to mention I love being on the couch and watching TV with Chris. Don't I sound like an old married person? :-) I really need to be better about going to church again too, I haven't gone in months. That definitely de-stresses me so does working out. I hope that you have a relaxing and fun weekend! :-)

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  11. Amen Sista!!! Finding the balance is so hard but I'm glad you've found it again! Need to take some of those tips for myself :) Have a lovely weekend, doll!

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  12. Girl, I've been so stressed lately! I have a to-do list a mile long and I feel like I'm only half-way doing all of it! I'm glad you found your balance! Sometimes I think it would be nice to go back to the 90s. Like call my home phone and if I don't answer I'm not available. We can be reached wherever we are and it can be such a distraction from everything! I hate feeling like I'm being pulled in 1000 different directions but ahh life!
    xo Krissy @ Sneakers and Sequins

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  13. This is great Mia- Thinking about you always and hoping things get better! These things are a great way to start that less stress journey as well! For starters- I hope you and yours have a fabulous and relaxing weekend!! xoxo

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  14. I really loved this post. I think stress and anxiety is something everyone can relate to. I know I have such a hard time with it! I think I find my balance and then realize I haven't. I only blog 3x a week. I don't want it to become overwhelming. Plus, like you I work full time and have husband and dog!

    ~Ashley @ A Cute Angle
    acutelifestyle.blogspot.com

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  15. I've found my knitting helps me with stress...
    I think when you take the pressure off yourself - like blogging every day - it makes it much more fun & not a 'job' in your life :)
    Good for you keeping up the things that work in your life.
    I need to make a day like Sunday to find time to relax & enjoy life a little more.

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  16. I think we all get caught up in trying to be a good blogger and have a post daily and comment on other blogs and respond to comments. It's a full time job on its own! I know I need to get off my phone more often and just live in the moment rather than try to capture it. I hope you're able to find a good balance that works for you!

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  17. Ok glad I'm not alone because I really have been stressing a lot lately too! I have been thinking about cutting back on the blog too for less outfit posts but well see! Full time work and full time blogging is a lot of work! Glad you found your balance and I'm definitely going to try some of these!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeatsoles.blogspot.com

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  18. Love this!!! And yes to the cutting back on blogging. Somedays I just really feel like I need to take a break. It's been nice only doing like 2-3 fashion posts a week. It gives me more time on the weekends to do fun things! Glad you're working on finding a balance! :) Have an amazing weekend doll!

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  19. I am so glad you posted this, it is such great inspiration! I feel like listing things out like that would really help my mess of a brain sometimes. I'm usually such an emotional person, I've really been trying to focus on giving it to God. Having someone pray with me has helped my stress level a lot! You have so much going on in your life right now I can only imagine the balancing act you've had to do, and I'm so glad that you've found a way to not forget to focus on yourself sometimes!

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  20. love this - good for you girl. I am starting to feel a little overwhelmed and want to blog just a little less, not to mention other things in my life i need to cut back on and other things i need more of. all about finding the balance :)

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  21. I love this. I haven't shared what is going on publicly but I feel like I am going to break and things keep happening. Needed this.

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  22. You gotta do what you gotta do sometimes - even taking a day off from posting helps me catch up on everything else. Less stress is always best! Hope you have a wonderful - QUIET - weekend :) XO

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  23. So happy you've finally found a balance. I couldn't agree more with this post...I'm tired of feeling like a bad blogger because I'm not getting 4-5 post up a week!

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  24. This is my on-going problem as well. I am happy you found a balance for sure. I definitely agree with turning off the phone and being able to just relax. My list includes painting my nails and snuggling with Winston. It makes a huge difference. xo

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  25. Thanks for sharing this! I've been feeling a lot more stress lately at work, but I'm in a small group every week and the study we're doing is called Fresh Air. It's about putting your focus back on your faith and putting fresh air in your life, whether that means re-centering your own self, finding people who just breath "fresh air" into you, really finding joy in your life, or all of the above. That has really helped me a lot this week. Making a list is such a good idea! I'll have to do that.
    xo!

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  26. LOVE this post Mia. And I think your list is awesome.
    My husband and I are part of small group and I always have the attitude of wanting to stay home and relax instead of go. But on our way home after bible study, I'm always happy that I went.

    I actually can relate to every single thing on your list, and I definitely need to make them a higher priority than what they are now. I wish I could sit on the couch with you and watch old movies!! I love that!

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  27. This is so true & wonderful! A big part of me being MIA from blogging lately is I haven't had that balance & it takes awhile to find it. What type of natural supplements are you taking for your acne. Lately I have been so stressed & overwhelmed my face has looked awful & I just don't know what to do.

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  28. I'm so glad you were able to refind your balance and focus on the positive and things that make you happy- it's definitely not easy, especially when you're in a difficult life situation. We were out last night and I realized I forgot my phone and at first I was really upset about it, but after a while I was like this is actually kind of nice! It's crazy how much we've all grown to depend on our devices!

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  29. I was super stressed recently too, with moving, blogging and starting a new job. I was overwhelmed! I was already only blogging twice a week, but I was on a set schedule. Which I've come to find out that it just doesn't work for me anymore, I feel like I HAVE to have something up with a schedule. So now I'm just blogging as I go. Whenever I have free time or when I'm feeling inspired.
    I'm glad you were able to find your balance, hopefully I will find my soon!
    xoxo

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  30. It's great that you found the right balance, because there is nothing worse than anxiety.When I'm super stressed I get panic attacks and they are awful. As a result, I also scaled down my blogging. I went from blogging about mommy hood, makeup, food, fitness to just makeup and beauty (which is what my blog originally focused on). I also only blog now on M,T, F and SUN. Which may still seem like a lot, but I was blogging every single day and I got burned out. Chasing a crazy toddler all day is hard enough, and blogging was starting to feel like a chore so I'm happy I lessened my load! Enjoy your free time! xo

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  31. WOW..i was actually inspired by this, i am a culprit of trying to do too much which always ends up with me feeling burnt out!
    Amazing amazing tips

    xoxo

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  32. This weekend, we were at our family ranch and there is literally zero cell phone service there. It was awesome to 'disconnect' just for a lil while! Love this post :)

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  33. you don't know how much i needed to read this today. :)

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  34. Hope you were able to destress a bit this weekend! And let me know how the acne remedy works...

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  35. Glad you're feeling better and it's working! My goodness at this point I WISH I could find time to blog twice a week, ha! Ps I've heard great things about Mario badescu

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  36. What a great post! I have found that leaving my phone alone in the evenings (primarily social media) has helped me connect with my family more and de-stress from social media hype. Also, with not having my family/friends live close to me, I like to facetime or glide them more than before so I feel a connection by seeing their face. And...cleaning. Yeah, that gets put on hold more around here. LOL We still have a clean house but not necessarily a dusted house or baby items put away. Oh well :) If people want to come over and have a problem with it, they can clean for me!

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  37. Super great post. So many good points. For me the saying no, really helped. Would do so many events with people that I never had time to just sit and stare. It's ok to say no sometimes, makes it more special when you say YES!

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  38. Mia you are the most amazing person and deserve happiness and a stress free life more than anyone I know. I am so happy to see that you are taking time and doing things that make you... even though if it means blogging a little less (wahh!!!)

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  39. Love this Mia! Being in Hawaii made me rethink a lot too and though I've been busy and not able to blog much, I've thought about how much I want to when I start again. I think I'm going to less as well but I don't want to stop. I'd miss the relationships!

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  40. Love this + that quote? Perfection.

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  41. this is something i need to work on. stress has been getting to me big time lately.

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