Stress. We all deal with it. Whether it's big or small, it's real. It's a problem.
Over the last year, basically since Christian's accident, I've been extra stressed and felt like I didn't know how to deal with it anymore. I developed horrible acne in my chin/jawline area that no matter what I did, it wouldn't go away. Over the last few months, I started experiencing anxiety for the first time in my life. I knew that all of this was a result of stress and that I needed to make some changes if I wanted things to be different.
First, I sought help with my acne. What I already knew was confirmed, hormones and stress were exactly what was causing it. I'm now on a few natural supplements that should help me out.
Next, I identified and made a list of exactly what was causing me stress and what I needed to do to change it.
Then I made a list of things that make me happy and/or relaxed. Things that I've either not been doing enough of, or need to focus on more. Here is what that list looks like-
-LifeGroup with my girls
-Bible study & attending church
-Spending Sunday to actually relax, at least a little
-Sipping coffee & watching an old favorite movie
-Baking on weekends
-Patio dining & more dates with my love
-Blogging, when I feel inspired
I vowed to really focus on these things, for me and for my health. Not to sound selfish, but we don't have kids yet and this is really our time to do things for us. One day that will change, but this is where we're at right now.
So what does this look like for me? What has changed or is changing in my life?
Blogging less. I love blogging, but sometimes it's just too overwhelming when you work full time. I know we can all relate to this. I decided to cut back to twice a week, sometimes 3. Guess what, I finally feel like I found my balance! It freed up so much time and I feel like I've fallen in love with blogging again. After I made the change, I came across this article. I thought it was interesting.
Less phone time. I can't tell you how many times recently I wanted to throw my phone out the window in a fit of rage. Sometimes, you need to just disconnect from the world. Try it, gosh it feels good.
Letting things go. I used to feel like everything had to be done right away. I've truly let stuff go, around the house especially, and it feels amazing. Of course I still clean my house, but I'm not obsessing over it. I get little things done in the mornings before work, which means actual free time on the weekend.
Saying no. This can be hard, a tricky one. You never want to hurt someones feelings but sometimes you just need to say no. Example: A wedding or baby shower of a friend, you should probably go, it means a lot to that person. A party during the week that you'd love to attend but you'd have to rework your schedule or will cause you some extra stress, you should probably say no. Nothing wrong with that, honestly they should understand.
Spend more time with people I love. Extra quality time with Dustin, my besties and my family. The people in my life that truly make me happy.
Now, I know that this may seem silly to some, but I can't tell you how much happier, relaxed and balanced I've felt these last few weeks. I'm sharing this with you all because I know I'm not alone. I know we are all busy & stressed over the typical things life throws at you. Let some of it go. Make a few changes for YOU if you need to. I promise you, you'll be a happier person.
What is something you could change/cut back to de-stress your life a little?