Make Me Up Mia: A Lifestyle & Beauty Blog: I Need Hair HELP!

Tuesday, April 29, 2014

I Need Hair HELP!

Alright girls, I am putting myself out there and cringing as I do it… 

This is how you always see my hair.


What you don't know, there is a MAJOR process that goes in having normal looking hair, and it sucks bad. I have very thick, frizzy and curly hair. Not pretty curly, unruly curly.

Here is my hair routine in short-

-I only wash it 2-3 times a week tops
-Leave in towel for about an hour, then wear in clip for at least an hour or more before I even attempt to blow dry it. 
-Spend forever blow drying it while trying to brush straight.
-Sleep on it, a must.
-Flat iron it in the morning. Even if I want to curl it with a curling iron, it has to be flat ironed first. 
-Usually wear in a pony tail because I go through all of the work then it just grows like a chia pet with wind or humidity.

My hair is pretty and shiny, after I do a crap ton of work to it.

When I talk to people about my hair, I paint a mental picture for them. They never believe me. Unless you see it with your own eyes, you'd think I was exaggerating or lying. I tell them my hair is like Gene Simmons or the infamous Monica hair on vaca after humidity from Friends.


Like I said, they usually don't believe me. So, last week I snapped a pic to show my friend Jen. So she could see, I'm really not exaggerating. Then, for some insane reason I decided I should blog about it and ask for help.

Here we go, my hair after a blow dry, in all it's fluffiness…. (I don't feel the picture even truly captures it!)


I can't believe I just did that! I have tried everything under the sun, and spent a ridiculous amount of money on product. The ONLY thing that has ever helped me is a Brazilian Blowout, my hair was completely different afterward in a fabulous way. But, they cost $300+ and that is hard to continually spend on your hair! Certain products do help with detangling and making it soft or shiny, but nothing helps with relaxing it or making it stay/hold after I've worked on it. I'm so sick of all the work and fighting it. 


Please tell me your life changing secrets ladies!!


I'm guest posting for Becky with Made in the Shade today while she's soaking up the Florida sun, make sure to go check out her blog for my spring trends on a budget ideas.

Linking up with Frankly My Dear and friends today for Tuesday Tea

46 comments:

  1. Oh how I love you! It's no where near as bad as Gene Simmons! Besides your face is much MUCH cuter than his :) I love that you did this! I'm using a product by Suave that I think may be helping mine, but I've only used it twice. If it continues to work for me I will share with you!

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  2. Have you tried a keratin treatment? My friend has super curly/wavy thick hair and she did a keratin treatment and that made hers a lot smoother. I have stick straight, super thin/fine hair so I'm probably not the right person to help here LOL! In fact I'd love to have thicker hair that would actually hold a curl! You might laugh at me but I still use Johnson & Johnson No More Tangles after getting out of the shower to help with my tangles and make my hair shiny! Good luck girl! :)

    <3, Pamela
    sequinsandseabreezes.blogspot.com

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  3. Something that's really helped me is to not condition my scalp hair (only my ponytail hair) and to dry in sections the same way that you'd straighten or curl in sections. I'll be checking back in to see what everyone else has to say!

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  4. i think you are gorgeous either way ;) unfortunately i have no advice - i have the finest, limpest, blah-est hair ever. i will agree with jessi in that i noticed a huge difference when i only condition my ponytail hair, and not my scalp. i also try and let my hair air dry a bit before i attack it with the hair dryer.

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  5. My hair is the same way!! I get away with only washing my hair about twice a week. I too have to straight iron before curling & it's the worst! So much damage! I'll be honest though I've completely given up on my hair since I've moved to the most humid place on earth, unfortunately it's in a pony tail 97% of the time..

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  6. Hey the good news is you at least have a lot if body!! I have the thinnest straightest hair ever so I have to use a bottle of hair spray on it to make it look good! I wish I had some advice but my hair seems to be the complete opposite! One thing I love to get the tangles out after showering is the wet brush! Works wonders!!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeatsoles.blogspot.com

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  7. I don't think it's nearly as bad as you think!! I'm not sure if a keratin treatment is the same as the brazilian blowout but it might not be as expensive!

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  8. I'm sorry I don't have any hair advice for you - I have the opposite problem since my hair is so fine and straight that I can't get it to do anything! I have heard good things about the product It's a 10 Miracle Leave-In Conditioner (it's called something like that).

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  9. What really worked for me was embracing myself the way I made. I spent hours and so much money to make it be something it wasn't. And then I had to spend time and money to undo the damage that the styling caused. If you still up for the fight, have you tried hair products targeted towards African-Americans? I used to use children's relaxer and it made my afro a wavy straight. I also like Ojon's leave in treatment to moisturize.

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  10. oh I wish I could give hair advice. I am on a quest myself to learn how to care for my own hair!! I have no idea what to do with it half the time! haha

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  11. I second keratin treatments! My step mom has similar hair and she gets them monthly and says their life changing! She also keeps her hair shorter (shoulder length) and has a fancy/expensive hair dryer and straightner (forget the name off the top of my head) that REALLY helps smooth things down. She also swears by Redken All Soft S&C - I use it, too and it's amazing!

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  12. I have fine, flat hair so I have no advice for you unfortunately =( I love you for posting that picture though!

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  13. You know I have the opposite problem this one over here loves volume. When I got my hair done the other day the Aveda lady was telling me they are coming out with a product that has keratin in it and it builds in your hair like the treatment. Maybe try to check out that line? Otherwise Pureology and Redken are my two go to brands!

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  14. Oh this post just made my day :) I have absolutely no advice because my hair is about as flat as can be-- which has it's whole own host of problems. This is probably a silly question, but what happens if you just let it air dry all the way?

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  15. You have lion hair too!!!!!!! I've learned big time that its all about the hair dryer and the brush you're using. What kind do you have?

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  16. HAHA... we are now forever friends... because my hair does the same thing.I think its a hidden secret for most people. But you're brave enough to show it. We should do a link up of everyone's "before" hair :) Unite in the frizz!!!
    I've been sitting here all day rubbing my hair trying to get the 'big' out of it. I straightened it & its STILL frizzing out. UGH!

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  17. Girl, if I did this post, just Photoshop out half of the length of your hair and we would be twinsies! I've heard Keratin treatments can be great and are a lot less pricey than the Brazilian blowouts. There also seem to be a lot of deals for treatments like that through Living Social and Groupon. I definitely have a routine, but because my hair is also so fine I can manage it fairly well after Moroccan oil, a full blowout and straightening. Hope you get some good tips from this post!

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  18. Girl,I have a natural afro. And those frizzy ringlets of mine (like a crazy old president?) have yet to go on the blog. More power to you.

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  19. Girl, you and I are hair twins! I face the same struggles!

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  20. I can relate! Moroccan oil helps my hair and I also try to avoid brushing my hair when it's dry!
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  21. I'm going to have to try a keratin treatment now after reading all of these comments!

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  22. BABE! We are SO hair twins, I am telling you!!! My hair is a hot freaking mess. I have to blow dry and straighten my hair before bed then get up and straighten it again in the morning. It's so ridiculous. What helps me most are "IT's a 10" products - pricey but absolutely worth it. I use the hair mask twice a week and the leave in conditioner spray almost everyday. I only wash my hair 2-3 times a week as wel.

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  23. Wish I could help you out but I have the opposite problem. I can't get volume even if I tease my hair for hours lol

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  24. God I understand your problem lol, even a Brazilian blow dry didn't last long enough for me :(, xoxo.

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  25. I was going to say have you ever tried Keratin? But sounds like you have. My mom had curly hair as well and swears by the Keratin treatments. But luckily her girl gives her a major discount plus she had short hair. Sorry I'm not much help!

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  26. Ooh, I sadly don't have any useful advice, but I see some interesting things to try in some other comments! I wish I had thicker hair, though! I can never get the volume I want. :)

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  27. i found that i can't use products with silicones and i can't use hairspray--that frizzes it out more. i wash mine only once or twice a week. have you tried the living proof line? or curlz (i think it's at target)

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  28. MIA!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you so much for posting this! I have EXACTLY the same type of hair. When my daughter was younger, she approached me straight after I blew my hair dry and said, "Mama, you look like Simba." That pretty much sums it up. My hair isn't curly. It isn't straight. It is kinky and frizzy and huge. What works for me is to blow dry my hair when I get out of the shower to dry it. Then I do my makeup or whatever for about 15 minutes and then I dry it again in sections with a big round brush. Tools are very important. Do you have a big round brush? I use a HUGE round brush (something like that - http://www.folica.com/reviews/tools/hair-brushes/x5-superlite-thermal-round-brush#reviews_anchor) and I have a professional level blow dryer that I cant live without. I even take it on vacation. It is a bit more than a Conair but I have had it for six years and it cuts my drying time in half. It makes a big difference. (This is the blow dryer. http://www.folica.com/tools/hair-dryers/elchim-2001-professional-hair-dryer-elchim-classic) Another product I use that I think helps a lot is Phyto's Relaxing Balm. I have been using it for years and swear by it. I put a bit in after I get out of the shower after towel-drying and before blow drying. I hope these tips help you and I applaud you for being brave enough to share your hair pic with the World. I've thought about it but I am too chicken. xo

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  29. Oh man girl you sure fooled me! Have you ever asked a stylist? Once they wet it, they should style it for you and you can see what products they use. I'm sure with all the tools and products it has lost any sort of curl it once had, so it'd be hard to get back to that. Maybe you'd have to not touch it and do anything with it for awhile and just let it be. Florida sure won't help with the frizziness! Best of luck to you my dear, you sure do hide it well!

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  30. I haven't read through all the comments but I love that you got so many! I believe there is something somebody knows about that's going to change everything!

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  31. Oh my gosh....my hair is the exact opposite! I have no words of wisdom for you but I'm honestly jealous of the body in your hair! I can't get my hair to hold a curl to save my life. I think your hair is beautiful!

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  32. One of the best things that can help with that is actually putting a humidifier in the room you sleep in. It may not seem like it will do much but it's helped my hair go from crispy to perfect curls.

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  33. Stop fighting the curl! Seriously.. I have so been there ALL.MY.LIFE. and life just gets easier.
    1) Find out what your wavy/curl really is (try naturallycurly.com - I don't have any affiliation with them, the site just helped me a TON!)
    2) Stop shampooing. Yeh... I know what you're thinking... EW! Yes, I still wash my hair. But I use a baking soda mixture to wash and a vinegar rinse as "conditioner". Best thing I ever did for my curls.
    3) STOP USING TOWELS on your hair! Use an old tshirt instead and learn how to "plop" your hair. (again... see naturallycurly or another website for us curly girls)
    4) Products, products, products.
    5) Get a good cut to compliment your wave/curl pattern.

    Beckey
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